Summary

Someone gives you career advice that sounds perfectly reasonable. “Just reach out.” “Speak up more.” “Ask for the promotion.”

You understand what they’re suggesting. You may even want to take that step. But when the moment comes, something makes it harder than it seems like it should be.

You open the message, rewrite it several times, consider how the other person might respond, and eventually close the window without sending it.

In this episode, Cyndi Bennett explores why traditional career advice can leave out important parts of the experience for trauma survivors. We look at the difference between knowing what to do and feeling able to do it, how past experiences can influence professional interactions, and why a more trauma-informed approach makes room for your needs, boundaries, and present circumstances.

Key Thoughts

* Career advice often moves directly from the goal to the instruction without considering what taking that step might require of you.

* Knowing how to do something and being able to use that skill in a particular moment are not always the same experience.

* What looks like procrastination from the outside may involve concerns about safety, judgment, privacy, or how someone might respond.

* Another template or reminder to try harder may not address what is actually making a career step difficult.

* A trauma-informed approach considers both your past experiences and the circumstances you’re navigating now.

* Your career goals, capacity, boundaries, and need for support all belong in the decisions you make about your professional future.

What This Means for You

If you’ve struggled to follow career advice that seems straightforward for everyone else, consider whether the advice has accounted for your experience.

You may not need another instruction. You may need to understand what makes that particular step difficult, what concerns deserve attention, and what kind of support would help.

You can pursue the same career goal through a different approach. You don’t have to ignore your needs or share more about your personal history than you’re comfortable sharing to make progress.

Try This After Listening

Think about one piece of career advice you’ve struggled to follow.

Complete this sentence:

“The part that becomes difficult is…”

Is it asking for help? Drawing attention to yourself? Waiting for someone else’s response? Or something else?

Naming where the difficulty begins can help you understand what the original advice may have missed and identify what you need included in your next step.

Continue the Conversation

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