Ross Rosenberg reintroduces a 2021 video on his 11-stage Self-Love Recovery Program, the treatment counterpart to his book Human Magnet Syndrome, which explains why codependents — those with self-love deficit disorder — are pulled magnetically toward narcissists.

Unlike ordinary therapy, the program has rules, demands commitment, runs eight months to a year and a half, and follows an Eriksonian sequence where each stage must be mastered before the next. Early stages move from hitting bottom and finding hope, through studying the book’s concepts, to treating the condition as an addiction with its own withdrawal symptom (pathological loneliness) and relapses, then to undoing the distorted self-perception produced by gaslighting.

Later stages build a non-romantic support system, prepare for the fallout of setting boundaries — anticipating violence, smear campaigns, alienated children, financial and legal sabotage — and then weather that storm and its losses. Inner-child work follows, then a transition into “self-love abundance,” then dating again, which he compares to learning to ride a bike late in life. Stage eleven, he admits, is still unfinished.

In this republished video, Ross Rosenberg presents his Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program — the treatment counterpart to The Human Magnet Syndrome, his account of why codependents (Self-Love Deficit Disorder) are magnetically drawn to narcissists. Not conventional psychotherapy, it is a structured, outpatient-style program of 11 sequential stages, seen weekly over eight months to a year and a half, built on Erikson's principle that each stage's challenge must be mastered before the next can begin.

The arc runs from crisis to self-love abundance: hitting bottom and reframing victim into survivor; learning the Human Magnet Syndrome; treating SLDD as an addiction, with pathological loneliness as its chief withdrawal symptom; undoing gaslighting; building real support; and preparing for the "narcissistic storm" before setting the boundaries that trigger it. It closes with healing the inner child, reaching self-love abundance, and learning to date and live from it — a final stage Rosenberg admits he is still working out.

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ABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.

Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest.

In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.

Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com.

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