Alex and Lauren trade their best and worst dating stories to show how the same habits that sink a first date, desperation, generic gestures, and grasping at a specific outcome, are the ones that sink a sales deal.

Episode Navigation:

00:40 — Alex and Lauren set up a different kind of episode: love, dating, and why marketing yourself is sales

01:52 — Desperation vs. discernment: two ways to approach someone across the bar, and the same two ways to approach a prospect

04:50 — Worrying whether they like you instead of asking whether you like them, and what that means for qualifying fit

07:26 — Lauren on reentering the dating world and the date that became a channel partner introduction

09:48 — Alex on “fail fast,” approaching strangers in New York, and why regret stings more than rejection

17:14 — The Visionary Mirror: how you show up in your career is how you show up in your relationships

19:10 — Planning the marriage, not just the wedding, and selling through implementation instead of to the close

22:55 — Worst dates: bright red pants, a screaming phone call, and a rewritten Bible

28:54 — Weekly roses and donuts for a gluten-free date: why generic generosity doesn’t make anyone feel seen

34:30 — Ditching the three-day rule, being direct, using the takeaway, and holding outcomes loosely

Connect:

Watch: https://www.youtube.com/@SalesWasJustTheStart

Sales Was Just the Start: saleswasjustthestart.com

Alluviance (Alex Kremer): alluviance.co

Sell with Goodell (Lauren Goodell): sellwithgoodell.com

Clustr (Lauren Goodell): getclustr.ai

Resources:

How to crush your quota without crushing your soul - https://ruvbi.share.hsforms.com/2rGW9QG0MTuao6rwF1rkEiw

The 4 masks of sales - https://ruvbi.share.hsforms.com/2NM3dwRaFTAKnZIWUZm7kGQ

The 5 day inner game reset challenge - https://ruvbi.share.hsforms.com/2W1Ko6wnZQPazEVXSwXVD1A