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5,0 sur 5 étoilesI read this before "Getting the Love You Want
5 mars 2016 - Publié sur Amazon.com
I read this before "Getting the Love You Want," and the combination, while some bits crossover, is truly a revelation. These and Marshall Rosenberg's work on Non-Violent Communication are guide posts along a journey towards love and healing, for which I'm increasingly grateful. We can't unknow what we become aware of, and Dr. Hendrix 's work is becoming more and more obvious in any interaction with others, seeing how our childhood attachments play into adulthood. Simply life-changing!
This book was one of the resources that aided me in transforming my life. I learned so much about myself and it was very practical and enjoyable to read. I healed my fears of intimacy and vulnerability (sabotaging and running away from relationships) and started the best long-term relationship of my life. Thank you Dr. Helen & Harville for your work!
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has a childhood that was unstable, neglectful or abusive or who is in a relationship with a person with an unstable childhood. This book provides concrete strategies for overcoming the unconscious sabotaging that frequently results from such backgrounds. -- I finished this book feeling a great sense of sadness because it explained so clearly why my last relationship - with the love of my life - failed. The hope of the book is that it gives communication techniques for creating emotional intimacy in a relationship. - The book's premise is that many people are blind to the fact that they create barriers towards receiving love. I had never thought of this before but can apply it directly to my own life: I never thought that I deserved to be happy or to be loved. Similarly, in my last relationship I did everything possible to reach out to my girlfriend and open myself up emotionally to her, but the more I reached out, the more she shut down; I see now that she was simply refusing to accept love and had a block towards emotional intimacy, empathy and compassion because she carries so much unresolved baggage. - This book explains in great detail the reasons for this self-sabotaging behavior, most often directly tied to childhood abuse and neglect. It provides many case studies on relationships showing how subtle, insidious and destructive the behavior pattern of refusing to receive love is. - Most importantly, the book gives a very thoughtful, positive and counter-intuitive strategy to allow oneself to begin receiving love. - I am so sad for what has been lost in my life, but this book provides hope for the future.