“I wrote this raw and honest guide to help you stop overthinking BDSM and finally start practicing it with the person you trust most. You will find simple ways to introduce bondage and sensation play into your bedroom without needing a dungeon or a degree in psychology. It is about safety and pleasure and the incredible closeness that happens when you are brave enough to let go of control.
I know you are probably sitting there with your partner or maybe you are alone and thinking about how to bring this up. It is terrifying to look at someone you love and tell them you want to smack them or be tied up by them. You worry they will look at you differently or think you are broken. I have been in that exact spot more times than I can count. The truth is that everyone has these thoughts. We just get really good at hiding them behind vanilla habits. The first technique is not a knot or a whip. It is just words. You have to open your mouth and say the thing that scares you.

Sit down with a glass of wine or tea or whatever makes you relax. Don’t do this right before sex or right after an argument. Pick a boring Tuesday night. You look at them and say I have been thinking about trying something different. Keep it vague at first if you are nervous. You don’t need to dump your entire fantasy list on the table in one go. Just open the door a crack. Watch their face. usually they are just[…]”

Excerpt From: BDSM Techniques for Beginners: A Simple, Short Guide for Couples

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